Mommas Do Let Your Babies Grow Up To Be Cowboys
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Although country music is really the only genre that I can’t listen to (okay, that techno-ick is pretty bad, too), I found myself a while back watching a few minutes of the Country Music Awards. While some balding guy with a cowboy hat and overtight jeans on strummed a guitar I was reminded of the old classic song “Mommas Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up To Be Cowboys.” Since I have always liked cowboys and western movies, I wondered why cowboys are not to be role models. Then I decided that Waylon Jennings was wrong. In many ways, a parent should be proud if their child could become a cowboy (or cowgirl!).
Cowboys are typically solitary figures. In fact, Waylon reasoned that they are always alone, even when they are with someone. But cowboys are also the masters of their own destinies – they plot their own course through the pasture of life. They aren’t swayed by fads, fashions, or the fickle nature of the crowd. Cowboys have figured it all out, probably thanks to all of that quiet time riding on the range with only their thoughts and some unpleasant smells for company. They have a firm grasp on what is important to them, what isn’t and what they need to do. I’ve heard it said that they know when to hold ‘em and when to fold ‘em.
I’ve invested a lot of effort this school year nurturing independent thinking in my students. It’s hard to imagine a more iconic independent thinker than the American cowboy. John Wayne didn’t look to others to determine what’s right. He might have listened to Katherine Hepburn, but he always made up his own mind.
To me, independent thinking doesn’t involve stubbornness, resistance to new ideas, or arbitrary contrarianism. If it requires going against the grain, it’s more like being a rebel with a cause. It does, however, embody the idea that all people have the right and the responsibility form their own opinions and to act in accordance with those opinions. Now, as a parent I definitely make efforts to shape the opinions my own children form to benefit them in specific ways (such as the belief that illegal drug use is extremely harmful), but as a teacher I feel that the way I can help my students most is to help them develop the ability to assess a particular context, evaluate the relevant facts and form a well-reasoned point of view. And, like roping cattle, the only time-tested way to do that is to practice, practice, practice.
That’s why I typically respond to a student who shows me his work and asks me “Is this good?” by replying “What do you think?” And why I so often answer a student question with another. And why I feel proud when students challenge me in ways that show they have been thinking about something. And why I try to always model for them by thinking aloud for myself.
Because I am charged this year with teaching American history to my school’s entire fifth grade, I am constantly reminded that independent thinkers are the people who created our country, who forged a path that was new and different, and who were the drivers of nearly every turning point that shaped our modern society. I want my students to make the connection to their own lives. They seem to be a bit early of the learning curve, but I intend to help them move as far up as possible before the end of my time with them. Us mommas and papas need to help them grow up to cowboys and cowgirls.
There always comes a time during the school year when the economist in me finally peaks out and I take a moment to teach my students the concept of finite resources. The basic idea is that there is only so much “stuff” to go around in the world, and that this is the source of competition. Because it’s pretty safe to assume that every child in my class has watched Animal Planet and/or the Discovery Channel, I refer to lions and antelopes. I tell them that it’s much more enjoyable to live your life as a lion than as an antelope. Lions go out and get the “stuff.” Antelopes are the “stuff.” Another way to extend the metaphor is to understand that not all lions get enough antelope. Some lions are fatter than others, but even those lions have it better than the antelopes.

My thoughts are most typically preoccupied with the Bizarro world of education, and my related observations and accompanying bewilderment often appear here. However, this week my mind was a million miles away from its usual place, and I discovered a place every bit as confusing and illogical (and sometimes disturbing) as a school. I had a medical problem that evolved into minor surgery and then into less-than-minor surgery.